How to be with your Spouse - NikahExplorer
Present your husband affection, gratitude, and love in order to be a good Muslim wife, also ask him to address you in almost the same way. Bear responsibility for your everyday life, and appreciate the beauty of one another. You will affirm each other's spirituality together and lead a pious and caring life.
You must be open in discussions with your husband
Build confidence by sufficiently rich thoughts and feelings with your husband. Tell him the very same thing. When you are truthful with each other, the marriage will grow stronger and healthy.
For your partner, express your desires. Tell him whatever you need from him, and request him to inform you the same.
Acknowledge that, emotionally and physically, men and women have been made to be distinctive, and each has a different function within a marriage.
To properly appreciate the rights and obligations of you and your husband to one another, examine the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Be responsible in your roles towards the house
You both don't need to do the same thing, just make absolutely sure you both carry on the burden of making a safe and nice place for your home. The Prophet used to assist with tasks.
It might be worth reminding some spouses to help around the house. Probably ask him to have been in charge of specific tasks if your husband doesn't really realize when things are unpleasant.
Make fun together
Get yourself out so enjoy life! For a loving marriage, a healthy friendship is created. Connect with your partner what you want, and discover what he really likes. Find stuff you both really like make daily dates for those things.
Let's try new stuff together. You've always both had games, journeys, sporting or adventures that you wished to do and haven't accomplished yet.
Take it in turns guiding and coordinating new events on expeditions.
At house, have fun, playing with them together if you already have children. Dream up new ways of amusing your spouse with them.
Motivate your children to study Islam and instruct them to pray.
When you argue then argue gently
There are occasional arguments from both partners. Try to not let the screaming or name-calling escalate through them. When you are in a disagreement, breathe deeply, keeps calm, and use "I" statements.
For example, if you're angry, say, "I'm upset ..." rather than saying, "You're mean and you're making me upset!"
To his wife, Hazrat Ayesha, the Prophet said, "Show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it embellishes it and ruins it when it is separated from anything."
In order to escape the power of the Shaytan, break rising stress by informing yourself (and your husband). Say something such as, "Love, let's not give in to the Shaytan. if we are both cool, can we resolve this?"
Choose your fights. Not all that worries you is worth a fight.
Discussion on Children
Build a common definition of your family's ideal size with your partner. In order to create the Muslim population, procreation is encouraged, however if you do not want kids, you are not needed by Allah to have them.
Discuss with your partner, if you plan to have children, how best to raise your kids in the love and compassion of Allah.
If you do not wish to get pregnant, use birth control. An IUD, Dep-Provera, an implant, or condoms can be of interest to you.
Show your Love and affection
Everyone requires others' tenderness. In ways that come naturally to you, show your love for your husband. Find out what your loved one reacts to and, in this way, show him respect.
If your husband likes physical contact, when you welcome him, kiss and hug him.
Tell him openly, if he wants to be told that you love him.
If your spouse reacts to compliments, look for something from every day to praise him.
Gifts are enjoyed by certain husbands. Arrange treats for him that is exceptional.
Talk about your appreciation
Show your appreciation for what he's done for you. In his business, express your pleasure. Congratulate him when he accomplishes something he is proud of and tell him that he made you proud, too. Affirm his emotions.
Leave him love notes and thank-you notes, but consider that when you see something that leaves you feeling grateful, all rewards come from Allah, so say "Alhamdulillah."
Find other ways to display gratitude, such as assisting him with a mission on which he is stuck.
Be affectionate during gaps from sexual intimacy
While sexual activity between spouses is encouraged, there are certain practices and occasions when the Qur'an forbids it.
Abstain from sexual intercourse during Ramadan, except at night between the iftar and suhoor. Please ensure you are well rested and well-fed to appreciate the effort!
During menstruation, Islam forbids intercourse. Cuddling, kissing, and playing are still tolerated, however. There is no excuse during your time of the month to stop your husband. He is still going to enjoy your love.
If your husband is gone for a longer length of time, such as on business or on a support program, then by reciting the Qur'an, praying and recalling Allah, keep your chastity by occupying your mind and shielding yourself from Shaytaan.
Otherwise, the wife is typically expected to satisfy the husband's right to conjugal relationships (and equally for the husband against the wife) while in good health.