Allah has asked all Muslims who are married to live together in peace and harmony and to contribute equally to marriage. Contributing equally into a marriage has various connotations but in our society and this day and age, Muslim couples believe in extremes which destroys the essence of what is really meant by the equality in contribution.
The examples that we should follow for our Muslim marriages to be successful are not movies or man-made stories. Rather we should follow the examples of the marriages of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) and Hazrat Khadijah and the Prophet Mohammad and Hazrat Ayesha.
One of the most important attributes of a happy marriage is for spouses to give each other respect. Respect is not the same as love. Respect is much deep than love and is always earned. When a Muslim man or woman feel that they respect each other in marriage, then Allah will automatically bless that marriage.
In today’s day and age and in the rut of this modern world where we as humans have so many priorities we forget to give one of the most important relationships in our lives the due importance that it deserves. Allah asks us to make our marriages our top most priority because it is one of the most loved relationships in the eyes of Allah but we fail to do so because the craziness of this technological world gets to us.
When Allah decided to bring a man and a woman together in marriage He explained to us in the Quran that they should live together in peace, harmony, love and compromise. Allah knew that these are 2 separate people who have different personalities and have come together from different upbringings. Allah hence expected us to not only live together with these different personalities but also make decisions about life together with our spouses.
Lots of Muslims around the world claim that their marriages are happy and they are content in them. But how many of us can claim that our marriages are healthy? A healthy Muslim marriage is stressed a lot by Allah and was also always talked about by our Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) . A healthy marriage is not just a series of happy events and good things happening everyday. A healthy marriage is not an exotic honeymoon.
From the moment we gain senses of what we are in this world, our only concern is about ourselves. It’s just me and no one else. Sure we care for our families and our friends but the one thing we care most about is ourselves. This theory does not work quite well as we grow older and enter into relationships and especially after e get married.
This life is not perfect. Allah never meant for this life to be perfect and He has told us this multiple times in the Quran. While there will be happiness that comes our way in our lives, there will also be difficulties that we will have to encounter. In marriage, too, happiness and difficulties will come hand in hand. Allah has said in the Quran “With hardship comes ease.” Not before it. Not after it. But with it. This means that in all relationships and in all walks of life, happiness and sadness will come hand in hand.