“Yours” and “Ours” in Marriage - NikahExplorer
Marriage in Islam is a partnership that Allah has made in the heavens and asked us to follow it in the world. But the word partnership means that both the husband and the wife live, work and take important decisions together. Many times Allah has mentioned the word “togetherness” or “together” in the Quran when He has talked about marriage. And so it makes sense that everything that belongs to one person in the marriage belongs to the other too.
“What is mine is yours and what is yours is mine” is a clichéd phrase often used in movies but no matter how clichéd it is, it should be followed and made a part of by the spouses in Islamic marriages. This does not only extend to material things (infact Allah probably doesn’t even mean material things); it extends to all the non-physical emotions and attributes in a marriage too. Just like Allah has said that “they are your garments and you are their garments” about Muslim marriages, in the same way everything that both the husband and wife own separately or together is “THEIRS”. Everything.
So when two people get married in Islam, the word “yours” and “mine” are replaced with the word “OURS”. And that extends to every single thing they do in life. Their dreams, their hopes, their children, their difficulties, their stresses, their time, their money and everything else that comes with forming a union of marriage. It’s theirs combined, not a single person’s! So remember that in your marital relationship, everything belongs to you both, yes even the TV in your room ;)