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How Pornography Addiction Is Affecting Married Life?
These days, many women are complaining about their husbands being porn addicts and how it is affecting their married life. Porn affects relationships negatively. One might not understand it in start, but with the passage of time the damage it will leave on your relationship will be irreversible.
Today, many young men and women are addicted to pornography, as it is easily available online. This addiction among our generation makes a person unable to be happy with their real-life, and difficult to them to make intimate relations with their spouse. Their whims and desires make them addicted to haram virtual reality.
Lowering the gaze is a Quranic injunction that has clearly addressed both believing men and women.
Allah says in the Quran,
“Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts” [24:30-31].
Sexual Morality in the light of Quran and Sunnah
Fornication is forbidden in Islam. Even, Allah (swt) has refrains, not to go near it. In Surah Al-Isra, Allah has said:
“Do not even go close to fornication. It is indeed a shameful act, and an evil way to follow” [17:32].
The above verse shows that as a Muslim, watching such acts are prohibited and not permitted as it leads to fornication. Pornography that leads to adultery, all these acts results in the exploitation of young women and break down of families. The Prophet (PBUH) said,
“Allah fixed the precise portion of fornication which a man will indulge in – there is to be no escape from it. The fornication of the eye is the lustful look, the fornication of the ears is listening to lewd talk, the fornication of the tongue is lewd speech, the fornication of the hand is the lustful grip (or embrace), the fornication of the feet is to walk to where he intends to commit fornication and the heart yearns and desires for what he may or may not put into effect” [Sahih Muslim 2658].
What Are the Harms on marital relationship, of Viewing Porn?
Research suggests that when one of the spouses excessively participates in watching porn on internet, he/she is not only harming their own self but endangering their relationship as well. Many married people view this addiction to be an emotional form of infidelity and cybersex to be a clear instance of unfaithfulness.
When two people willingly decide to complete their deen by getting married, they are promising to lead a faithful life where they will take care of each other in every way. Islam has given this relationship much greater importance. But this addiction is severely harming this relation, as it could lead to having extramarital affair.
At times, this act destroys the marriage and the couple who promised to love each other. Such person could not be able to support his/her spouse at every stage of life. Sometimes dedecides to part ways. One of its negative impacts on this relationship is it leads to infidelity.
Trapped in Evil Acts
Abd al-Rahman, the son of Abu Sa’id al-Khudri, reported from his father:
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
“A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering” [Sahih Muslim].
Therefore, it is clear that this addiction is evil, and one must take care of his/her halal relationship, and work on protecting their marriage. The current state of our Muslim youth is disheartening as they are trapped in this evil porn world that is causing their marriage to fall apart.
For s strong marital relationship, intimacy is the most important measure between the couple and anything that destroys intimacy will ultimately harm your marriage. As a true believer and a Muslim, one must resist this temptation, and do not fall into the traps of shaitan as it leads to major sins.
Allah the most high, has said regarding this conduct:
“And as for those who were in awe of standing before their Lord and restrained themselves from ˹evil˺ desires, Paradise will certainly be ˹their˺ home.” [79:40-41].
Concluding all the facts it could be said that porn can harm you and your relations in a number of ways. In order to protect the sacred bond of marriage, it is one’s responsibility to refrain from any addiction and habits that can jeopardise their relationship with their spouse.