A healthy marriage is bound to have bad days along with good days. That is why it is called a healthy marriage and not a perfect marriage. Because Allah knows that perfect marriages do not exist and he does not expect us to achieve perfection in our marriages. Just like human beings are flawed so is the relationship of marriage between two different human beings. However, we must make sure that it is not by carrying out a balancing act appropriately.
Allah has asked all Muslims who are married to live together in peace and harmony and to contribute equally to marriage. Contributing equally into a marriage has various connotations but in our society and this day and age, Muslim couples believe in extremes which destroys the essence of what is really meant by the equality in contribution.
The examples that we should follow for our Muslim marriages to be successful are not movies or man-made stories. Rather we should follow the examples of the marriages of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) and Hazrat Khadijah and the Prophet Mohammad and Hazrat Ayesha.
One of the most important attributes of a happy marriage is for spouses to give each other respect. Respect is not the same as love. Respect is much deep than love and is always earned. When a Muslim man or woman feel that they respect each other in marriage, then Allah will automatically bless that marriage.
In today’s day and age and in the rut of this modern world where we as humans have so many priorities we forget to give one of the most important relationships in our lives the due importance that it deserves. Allah asks us to make our marriages our top most priority because it is one of the most loved relationships in the eyes of Allah but we fail to do so because the craziness of this technological world gets to us.
From the moment we gain senses of what we are in this world, our only concern is about ourselves. It’s just me and no one else. Sure we care for our families and our friends but the one thing we care most about is ourselves. This theory does not work quite well as we grow older and enter into relationships and especially after e get married.
In Muslim Marriages Allah has laid great emphasis on love between spouses who have signed the bond to live with one another. But a very important part leading to a successful marriage is also the admiration that a spouse has for the other spouse. When a Muslim husband or wife shows their life partner that they admire them, it leads to strengthening of the marriage and consequently a very strong bond.
Allah has asked all Muslims to marry for the right reasons and marry a person when they fulfill the criteria of those right reasons. He has asked us to marry after we see that our potential spouse is capable of supporting us, is compatible with us, has beauty, has means and most importantly, has faith, has Imaan. This should be the most important criteria of Muslims to marry.