This life is not perfect. Allah never meant for this life to be perfect and He has told us this multiple times in the Quran. While there will be happiness that comes our way in our lives, there will also be difficulties that we will have to encounter. In marriage, too, happiness and difficulties will come hand in hand. Allah has said in the Quran “With hardship comes ease.” Not before it. Not after it. But with it. This means that in all relationships and in all walks of life, happiness and sadness will come hand in hand.
Many Muslims today are facing the harsh truth of finding it difficult to get married because they are unable to find the perfect person for themselves. Muslims especially in foreign countries are finding it difficult to find their soul mate either because of lack of choices or because something or the other does not match up to them.
Many Muslim marriages succeed or fail because of the following attribute of kindness. Some spouses have it for the other while others don’t. But kindness does not only refer to the kindness that husbands and wives show to each other rather in a Muslim marriage the spouses are required to show kindness to their spouse’s families as well.
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said about the relationship between the husband and the wife “When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at both of them with mercy.” Love. Kindness. Happiness. Peace. These are the things that make a marriage a very happy one.
The relationship of marriage among Muslims is a binding contract to live in peace, love and harmony as mentioned by Allah in the Quran. This means sharing the happy moments together but also sharing the sadness that comes into the relationship. Whether the happiness is of a the birth of a child or the sadness is the loss of something special, a Muslim couple has been asked by Allah to be with each other in thick and thin
Getting married is the easy part. Making it work is the hard one. Once a Muslim man and Muslim woman get married they must try their utmost to make their marriage happy and peaceful. And this trying should come with both sides. Ofcourse, a happy marriage does not mean a perfect marriage because there is no such thing as perfection in this world.
Yes it is quite difficult to achieve. I feel you. We all feel you. But while it is difficult to get it is not entirely impossible. Staying love struck in marriage even after years of togetherness is a very challenging feat for a Muslim man and a Muslim woman but we must try our best to do so.
In Islamic marriages Muslim husbands are the breadwinners for their wives and their entire family. It is the responsibility of the husband to provide all the necessities in life for his wife who in turn has the responsibility to care for and love her family and household.