Concept of Nikah Halala - NikahExplorer
In Islam, family established through marriage. The knot of Nikah between man and woman consists of three bonds.
If a man divorces once, one knot breaks but if they feel the pain of separation, man can return to his wife. They can carry their marriage with two bonds unbroken but now they have to stay more careful and cautious with anger and other problems regarding their life. If man again messes around and breaks the second bond, he still has the last bond to lean on. But if he breaks the third bond also, the divorce deed becomes irrevocable. Now he can't return to his wife.
God gives man three chances to save this beautiful bond of Nikah. These three chances indicate that how important the marriage is and how seriously issues must be taken within this relationship. Allah doesn't want us to break our beautiful knot of Nikah. But if a man does it (irrevocably), he has no chance to return to his wife.
When a man divorces his wife thrice, she completes her iddah. When she is done with her iddah, she can marry with another man. After sexual intercourse, if this man divorces her too, now she can return to her first husband or anyone by tying again the knot of Nikah. Many people has named this process as Halala, that Halala is the commitment of marriage with an intention of divorce we think that we can marry someone with an intention that we’ll take the divorce and return to our previous spouse. We think that we can marry with an agreement and so we can take divorce and then free to go to the previous husband and wife. However there is no concept of Halala in Islam. Islam never says that perform Nikah with the planning of divorce but Islam says that perform Nikah and do everything to save your relationship.
Allah says in Quran in Surah Al-Baqarah, Verse: 230
“And if he has divorced her [for the third time], then she is not lawful to him afterward until [after] she marries a husband other than him. And if the latter husband divorces her [or dies], there is no blame upon the woman and her former husband for returning to each other if they think that they can keep [within] the limits of Allah . These are the limits of Allah, which He makes clear to a people who know.”
Many people interpret this ayah in the wrong manner that once a person is done with three divorces then they can marry each other again after doing another Nikah in between with an intention of divorce. However, the true interpretation of this ayah is that after divorce a person can marry another person in the same manner as he/she did before. And he/she must be sincere with the new husband/wife. But if for instance they are not happy with each other and there is again no other options left except divorce then they may divorce in the same way they did before. And now again after the three divorces they are now free to marry someone else and that someone could be their previous spouse too or anyone.