How Muslim Spouses should deal with grief - NikahExplorer
When it comes to losing a loved one, especially a spouse, there is no greater example to follow than that of the Holy Prophet (PBUH). The Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) lost many of his loved ones to death, his father, his mother, his grandfather, his uncles, his wife Hazrat Khadijah and his sons. There was grief all around for him, at every stage of his life. But Allah asked him to have patience and patience he did have. His patience was what made him who he was. However, he was, after all human, and grief hurt him just like the way it hurts us.
Perhaps the most painful death of a loved one for the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) was that of Hazrat Khadijah (RA), his first wife. The way he dealt with her death should be an example for all and is the greatest love story of all time. So much so that even after her death, the rest of the Prophet Mohammad’s wives felt jealous of her.
Once Ayesha, the wife of the Prophet (PBUH) inquired about the Holy Prophet (PBUH) crying while he missed Hazrat Khadijah, years after her death. To that he replied “She believed in me when no one else did”. That is the way to deal with grief when your spouse passes away, just like the Holy Prophet (PBUH) did. He remembered the good times, the strength that she gave him, the support that she showed him and in the end had the belief that he will meet her again in Jannah or better, enter it together hand in hand.
So that is the recipe to deal with the grief that enters your heart after the death of your spouse. To try to be a better Muslim for the rest of your life and to pray for the forgiveness of your spouse and believe that Allah will grant you both Jannah together. That feeling eases and relaxes your heart and soul as you give yourself completely to Allah. And that is what eventually eases the pain in your heart for the grief that you face.