NikahExplorer.com Blog Infidelity in Islam
Posted on 11/11/2019 in Education In Islam
Infidelity in Islam

Infidelity in Islam - NikahExplorer

The rebellion in infidelity hurts. The behaviour of the cheater damages the betrayed partner, their children, their parents, close friends, and even their community. But not only these people are hurt by infidelity, it is also hurtful for the cheater. You are sitting there wondering how cheating could harm someone who betrays you because it seems they are the one who do what they want without caring about the way it affects someone else. It is fascinating as to why infidelity impacts cheater. The simplest answer to your question is they are affected by their decisions, relationships, and all the other important relations.

In terms of an acute exhilaration, cheating can have an emotional impact on the cheater. When they think of how their actions affect everyone they love and why they cheat in the first place, they also feel fear, remorse, shame, sadness, sorrow, frustration, pride and selfishness. They feel the pain and anguish of their questionable judgment as they think about and understand how their actions affect them. All these thoughts running through their minds could lead cheaters to live two entirely different lives as the matter continues. They feel the overwhelming ecstasy of love and they feel the hatred at the same time.

Let us look at this matter in the aspect of Islam as to how it guides the Muslims. A man who is wrongful in his relation to a non-mahram woman not only cheats on his wife but also is a sin and an act of disobedience to his Lord. These relations have been prohibited by Allah and there has been no way of leading to more immoralities, including Zina (illegal sexual relations). Most people who have relationships like this are forbidden from committing acts that include their being alone (khulwah), shaking hands with them, looking at them, etc. These are sins that are prohibited in the teachings and for the sake of the sin which includes Zina that they can lead.

A Muslim woman's relationship with a person who is not her mahram – whether he is married or not – always constitutes a major sin and it is worse than would be because lineages are mixed and the husband doubts whether his children are his offspring or not, which leads to many mishaps. A woman who is not his mahram may not appeal to anyone because of the fitnah (temptation) involved in this. Anyone who sends these acknowledgements may feel that he has no fitnah involved, but Shaytan will hold on to him till he tempts the man with the woman and vice versa. Those who hear Dajaal have been ordered to keep themselves away from him. The Prophet (P.B.U.H) said a man would come to him as a faithful man, but Dajjaal held him until he had threatened and led him away.

The Prophet (P.B.U.H) said, “O mankind! Beware of fornication/adultery for it entails six dire consequences: three of them relating to this world and three to the next world. As for the three that are related to this world, they are the following: it removes the glow of one’s face, brings poverty, and reduces the life-span. As for its dire consequences in the next world they are: it brings down the wrath of Allah upon the person, subjects him to terrible reckoning, and finally casts him in hell-fire” .

(Al-Bayhaqi)

The man who has a haram relationship with a woman, who is not his mahram, is betraying Allah's rights before he betrays his wife's rights. The Muslim has a bond with his Lord that He is Exalted, and what he must do is not breach the covenant. This is not what the individual is commanded to do in answer to his Lord's blessing. Allah, may He be glorified, blessed him, either in now, or in the near time in Heaven, with good health, well-being, a family, and children.

To express appreciation for these blessings is not to waste the good health and well-being of relationships with non-mahram people. And it is not by neglecting or cutting ties to non-mahram women to show gratitude for the blessing of their spouses and children. Allah (S.W. T) has promised those who are blessed more, and warns those who are ungrateful for the blessings with severe punishment, as He says,

“And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: If you give thanks (by accepting Faith and worshipping none but Allah), I will give you more (of My Blessings), but if you are thankless (i.e. disbelievers), verily! My Punishment is indeed severe” (Ibraaheem 14:7)

The Prophet (P.B.U.H) has further said, “[Under Islamic laws in an Islamic state]. It is not lawful to shed the blood of a Muslim except for one of three sins: a married person committing fornication, and in just retribution for premeditated murder, and [for sin of treason involving] a person renouncing Islam, and thus leaving the community [to join the enemy camp in order to wage war against the faithful].” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, and An-Nasa’i)

It is a fact that the world of technology has opened up a lot of easily accessible temptations. When you suspect your spouse's infidelity or something unusual, speak to them and let them know how you feel.

While rebuilding and restoring a relationship after deception is a challenge, it is not impossible. These mistakes can change marriages and never go back to what they were, but they can become stronger with legitimacy, forgiveness and patience. When couples actively try to resolve and rebuild their relationship, they will establish a more mature bond.