Is love enough for a successful Muslim Marriage? - NikahExplorer
Success in marriages is a concept few couples are aware of bringing about. For most of them a successful marriage means immaculate perfection in their lives from the time they sign the bond of Nikah. But they are severely disappointed when these expectations of theirs bear little fruit. Then there is also the fact that most couples feel that there is only one ingredient that makes a marriage work and that is “love”. So if there is no love, there will be little chance of the marriage working.
Whereas love is no doubt one of the most important factors in having a successful marriage, it is not the only one and it is certainly not enough for the couple to live happily ever after. Allah has mentioned marriage in the Quran numerous times and has used different factors for the success of marriage. So for our marriage to be successful, first and foremost we must follow the principles of the Quran and the Hadith.
For example, Allah has mentioned that the husband and wife are each others garments. While the word garments denote warmth of the spouse towards the husband or wife, the word also denotes protection, fulfillment of responsibilities, patience, compromise, living in peace and much much more.
Together with this, an ingredient for a successful marriage is to understand each other and communicate. You may “love” each other immensely but if you don’t speak of the love, don’t show it in words and actions and compliments, the relationship will soon die. It is like g a plant. It may be kept in the sun but if it doesn’t get water it will soon and undoubtedly die. Loving the person does not mean finding the perfect person. Rather it means to live with the person’s imperfections perfectly and that is what every Muslim couple should strive to do. Marital happiness will not come automatically with love, rather it will come with nurturing that love in the light of the Quran and the Hadith.