Looks in Muslim Marriage - NikahExplorer
Much has been said in Islam about marrying a person for their beauty, as said by the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in a very famous tradition, but many have not grasped the meaning of the tradition and have misunderstood it. This is the hadith of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) is “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”
The emphasis on beauty has, in our society, been misinterpreted ridiculously, no doubt picked up from cultures and traditions of other religions. Hence when the term beauty is mentioned in the hadith it is meant to mean the human perception of what beauty is; And human perception of beauty is physical perception.
So when we, as humans, talk about beauty we mean that the person you marry should be fair, tall, have great teeth, have a good smile, should be slender and thin and the list goes on. THAT is what WE think is beauty. But who said that is what beauty really is? Have we forgotten who made us? Do you, even for a second, suppose that the Being that made us, Allah, would ever make a mistake in making us? That he would make us lesser in looks than His other creation? Certainly NOT! So then what gives us the power to judge the outward beauty of a person? The beauty that will vanish as the years pass by is not beauty, surely!
So when the Prophet (PBUH) says he wants us to marry a person with beauty, he does not mean the person’s “LOOKS”. He means the person’s beauty in personality, their character, the way they talk to and treat people, the way they help out the needy, the way they are pleasant, patient, religious, God fearing. THAT is the real beauty of a person and THAT is what the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) means. Falling in love with the character of a person will never disappoint you, never! But falling in love with the face, for example, or the body structure, will.
So we must pledge not to confuse the looks of a person with their beauty. Beauty is such a lovely word and means so much more than just looks. It has a depth and we must understand it IA.