Making Marriages Work - NikahExplorer
Allah has made marriage one of the most loved relationships in Islam and also the most important. Such is the love of marriage in the eyes of Allah that He has mentioned divorce between a Muslim man and a Muslim woman the most disliked of all the halal things. Just like we are eager to please our parents by doing what they like so we must we be the same towards Allah as well. Would you like to have done something in life that Allah dislikes? Certainly not. So we must make our Islamic marriage work when things get difficult.
Allah has said about marriage in Islam, "And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has placed between you, love and mercy. In this there is surely evidence (of the truth) for the people who carefully think." (Surah 30, Verse 21)
In the above verse Allah does not only talk about love but also mentions mercy between the husband and the wife. This means that Allah acknowledges that things are going to get tough in your married life. But He has asked us to be strong and persevere to make our marriages work and not to listen to shaitaan and give up. We must remember that once upon a time we did marry that Muslim man or that Muslim woman for a reason. Remember those reasons and think of the good times you spent together. Think of all the good that is there in your spouse.
Allah has already said to us that “if you dislike something about your wife then you will also like something else of hers”. So give her that chance to make your marriage work. Live your marriage to the fullest and accept that there will be ups and downs in your relationship just like all great relationships are. But do not falter and do not give up. And mostly do not listen to the whispers of shaitaan asking you to end your marriage.
Remember that your spouse was given to you as a gift of Allah. Appreciate the choice that Allah made for you and the person he chose for you to spend the rest of your life with. Don’t think of it as a coincidence as there are no oversights with Allah.