Maturity in Muslim Marriage - NikahExplorer
Allah and his prophet (PBUH) have encouraged us to marry young and as soon as we can afford it. There is a tradition of the holy Prophet (PBUH) that says “If you can afford to get married, then by all means get married”. In our society couples get married when they have started earning enough to support a family. Most of them wait to build a career and others wait just for the sake of it. Yet many wait because their parents are of the opinion that their children are not old enough for marriage. However, what we must be concerned about is not the age of the couple when marriage is taking place, rather the maturity of the couple who are getting married.
Age and maturity are two different things. Many marriages have been successful inspite of the young age of the couple and many marriages have failed even though the couple has reached an age that is considered old. If we take an example of Hazrat Ayesha, we can see that even though she was only 18 years of age when she married the Holy Prophet, she was so mature and sensible that people used to come to her for advice on all matters, so much so that she was called the Mother of the Believers.
Even in marriage, maturity plays a huge role for the husband and the wife. Being mature in marriage means understanding the responsibilities of the spouses, loving each other, being their garments, and fulfilling the duties towards each other. However, it is not only these big things that are to be taken care of but real maturity involves being patient when silly things come up, like who loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, why are you always playing with your phone, why has your laptop been on charge for so long. These are the instances that actually challenge the marriage of couples and need to be dealt with the MOST maturity.
When a husband or a wife tackles such situations with the sensibility of a mature person, you know your marriage is safe. You feel more at ease with yourself when you’re mature because maturity also brings with itself calmness, peace and suddenly the world seems a better place. That is why maturity is most needed in the relationship between a husband and a wife, the most loved of Allah’s relationships. It makes you sensible, it makes you patient and it makes you at peace with your spouse and the world.