Peace in a successful marriage - NikahExplorer
"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect." (Quran 30:21)
One of the most famous verses of the Quran explaining the relationship between a man and a woman in marriage is shown above. Allah has told us that he has created mates from his own creation of humans for us, He has created us in pairs so that we may live together. However, Allah has not used the verb living together alone. He has used the word “tranquility” and “peace” with it. He has made it important for us to do so when we enter the institution of marriage.
However, living in peace does not come easy, as does not living in lover and harmony. But since Allah has exactly worded that we must live in peace, then peace there shall be. There are two aspects of living in peace; one is living while accepting your spouse’s faults, shortcomings and knowing that you have your own and the other is not being able to live in peace without them. Both are cute and sweet emotions and gain Allah’s blessings.
But how can a marriage attain that level of peace that Allah wants from us? By being patient. By being compassionate. And by being tolerant. All these attributes are given to us by Allah to follow. A man and a woman in marriage need to compromise and make the best out of a situation no matter how lousy it is. So the next time your husband forgets to bring a major ingredient of food that you need for cooking, would you yell and create disharmony in the house or would you do without the ingredient and vouch for peace? If your wife forgets to iron your morning shirt, (which by the way she is not supposed to, she’s just helping you out!) do you tell her scathingly she has a bad memory or do you stay quiet and iron it yourself? What way would you chose for your marriage? The peaceful one or the argumentative one? Surely the peaceful one. For if you are not at peace, your spouse will not be at peace and consequently your marriage ill not be a peaceful one. Make your marriage such that your spouse will not be peaceful without you. Or you without him/her because you love each other so much. And that IA will constitute a successful marriage.