Rights of living in marriage - NikahExplorer
Allah has made marriage the institution and relationship whereby a husband and wife live with each other in love, peace, harmony, compromise and forgiveness. Yet apart from all these intangible (yet equally necessary!) parts of maintaining a marriage, there are also many rights and responsibilities that make the relationship prosper. Let’s not go into the details of ALL the responsibilities that spouses have on each other but let’s first analyze the rights of living between a husband and a wife because it is the living that they both have to deal with.
It is very prominently mentioned in the Quran the first and foremost commandment of Allah with regards to living with your spouse in marriage. He says “Live with them in accordance with what is fair and kind” [an-Nisa’ 4:19]. There are two points mentioned here, and we must be sure to follow both as both complement each other. If you are being kind to your wife, you are automatically also being fair to her and if you are being fair to your husband, you are showing him kindness. However, the definition of kindness and fairness does not stop there. We must live with them in great companionship and we must compromise when things get tough. Anger is the enemy of marriages as the shaitaan preys on it to destroy the sacred relationship.
Living together in kindness and fairness also involves spending of time with one’s family, apart from the rest of the responsibilities. The wife must ensure that all her time is not spent in the kitchen while her husband waits for her to get free and the husband must also make sure that he doesn’t come home late while his wife waits for him all dressed up to spend time together. THAT is what living in kindness involves, giving them their due rights of living.
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said about the wife’s rights of living with her husband in a beautiful tradition “Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you, your wife has a right over you and your guests have a right over you.” He also said “The best of you is the best of you to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” We must follow the example of the Holy Prophet and learn from his life about how to live with that level of kindness with our spouses.
So a husband and wife must ensure that they are doing all in their power to give the other spouse their due rights which shows through their treatment of each other all levels. Indeed Allah will be the most pleased when these rights are fulfilled and He will bless your marriage further.