Tips for Successful Muslim Marriage - NikahExplorer
They are a clothing for you and you are a clothing for them. [Quran: Al-Baqarah 2:187]
Whether your marriage is full of stress, boredom, or happiness, there are always ways to improve it. In this post, you'll discover two pieces of advice that you can put into practice right now to give your marriage a boost. Even if you're not currently married, these concepts are universally applicable and can benefit any relationship.
Allāh extends provision for whom He wills and restricts [it]. [Quran: Ar-Ra'd 13:26]
In Islam, it's important to remember and follow the rights and principles ordained by Allah and His prophet (peace be upon him) in our marital bond. By reviving our understanding of these sacred laws, we can strengthen our relationships and cultivate a deeper sense of love and respect for our spouses. Upon entering into marriage, it is crucial to keep in mind that you have taken on the responsibility of respecting your spouse's rights, as they are outlined by divine laws. Any claims of ignorance or lack of commitment to upholding these rights cannot be considered as valid excuses.
Couples often lack awareness of the rights and responsibilities that pertain to both husbands and wives within a marital union. Conflicts arise due to personal interpretations of entitlements and neglect of responsibilities towards each other.
Regarding our general obligations, Allah's guidance is as follows:
“O you who have believed, fulfill [all] contracts.” [Quran: al-Maa’idah 5:1]
“and fulfil (every) engagement, for (every) engagement will be enquired into (on the Day of Reckoning).” [Quran: al-Isra’ 17:34]
Disagreements and everyday challenges are undeniable in any relationship. How couples respond to these situations is what determines the health of the relationship. Disrespectful responses, such as belittling or disregarding each other's opinions, can cause cracks to appear in the relationship. This communication breakdown can lead to minor issues escalating into serious conflicts and even the deterioration of the relationship.
We must recognize that Allah created us with dignity and respect. Disrespecting someone can lead to a negative response from our spouses and sow seeds of animosity, hatred, and mistrust. Therefore, we should avoid disrespecting each other when trying to resolve a situation.
Both Allah and the Prophet (peace be upon him) emphasized the respect and honor that are due to Muslims and all of humanity. Allah's words in the Quran emphasize this:
"And indeed We have honored the Children of Adam and have carried them on land and sea and have provided for them of the good things and have preferred them over much of what We have created, with [definite] preference." (Quran: Al-Isra, Chapter #17, Verse #70)
It was narrated that ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr said:
“I saw the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) circumambulating the Ka’bah and saying: ‘How good you are and how good your fragrance; how great you are and how great your sanctity. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, the sanctity of the believer is greater before Allah than your sanctity, his blood and his wealth, and to think anything but good of him.’” Da’if (Darussalam) Sunan Ibn Majah 3932
In a happy marriage, couples should resolve challenges without disrespect. Difficult conversations are necessary but never cross the line of respect. Islamic teachings uphold human dignity and never condone degrading behavior, even in the toughest times.
In conclusion, wives can strive to embody the qualities described by the Prophet in the hadith:
" The Messenger of Allah said: “This world is but provisions, and there is no provision in this world better than a righteous wife.'” Sunan Ibn Majah 1855
It has been related to a woman's rights over her husband, the Prophet had this to say:
“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1162
Let us learn our rights and responsibilities toward each other and commit to never disrespecting one another, even in the face of challenging situations.