Walima A Detailed Insight Under The Islam - NikahExplorer
The family relationship is sacred and the pillar of our culture. Such a form of organization should not be based on forbidden things but spiritual values and attitudes. Such a pillar is incapable to be built based on mistakes; it is beneficial to have adequate in-line information regarding the topic of Walima.
The Arabic word Walima (the marriage banquet) derives from the root word Walam, which means gathering and assembling basically. It has been used by used by Arabs for a meal or feast to invite and gather people. The word later was exclusive for the banquet of the wedding. For the various feasts which they have celebrated, the Arabs used different terms. The wedding feast (walima) is the Sunna of Allah's beloved Messenger (P.B.U.H). It is an outward expression of affection and enjoyment and a great way to promote the union that has been greatly promoted.
Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) has seen a yellow mark on Abdur Rahman ibn Awf (RA) and he has said: "What is this?" Abdur Rahman ibn Awf (RA) has replied: "I have married a woman with the dowry being gold to the weight of a date-stone." The Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) said: "May Allah bless you (in your marriage), perform a Walima, even if it is only with a goat." [Bukhari]
Often questions are revolving whether a married couple must be intimate (sex) with one another on the same night after nikkah or before Walima? Or some even make it obligatory to have sex before Walima?
When the Nikaah ceremony is performed, man and woman become wife and husband. There is no such obligation in Islam which says that immediately after the nikkah or before or after the walima feasts you form a conjugal relationship. The pair is legal and can have intimate relationships whenever they like. In the Holy Quran or the Sunnah of the Prophet (P.B.U.H), there is no such injunction. Any time after nikkah you can marital relationships with your wife. Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah's Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Here are some of the points in this regard:
1. The Correct Time of Walima:
Many scholars (Jumhur) believe that Walima is a meal served after the marriage has been concluded. This is the custom of Allah's Messenger (P.B.U.H), as it is stated explicitly in a narrative.
The great Hadith master (hafidh), Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani (RA) states:
"The Hadith of Anas (quoted above) is clear in determining that Walima is considered to be after the consummation of the marriage." [Fath al-Bari, 9/199. Also see I'la al-Sunan, vol. 10, p. 11]
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
"The marriage banquet (walima) is a Sunnah and there is a great reward in it. And it is carried out when the marriage is consummated." [al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/343]"
It has also been reported from the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) that he stated:
"Walima on the first day is confirmed (Haq), and on the second day, it is good (ma'ruf), and on the third day, it is showing off." [Abu Daud]
There have been many opinions of scholars regarding the correct time of the Walima, for example:
1) At the time of the marriage contract,
2) After the marriage contract and before consummation of the marriage,
3) At the time of the wedding procession (bride leaving for her husband's house) [Ibn Hajar, Fath al-Bari, 9/287]
2. The Walima Days:
Hanafi scholars (fuqaha) have a view that a banquet lasting up to two days is considered a Walima, after which it is no longer seen as a Walima.
As stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
"There is nothing wrong with inviting people the next day after consummation or the day after. After that, marriage and Walima celebrations will come to an end." (5/343)
Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) has stated: "Walima on the first day is confirmed (Haq), and on the second day, it is good (ma'ruf), and on the third day, it is showing off." [Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 3738]
3. The Guests of Walima:
There is no specific number of guests which are mentioned to be invited to Walima. Family members, colleagues, acquaintances, associates, academics, men of piety and others should be invited. It is unfair to only invite the wealthy or those perceived to be of the upper class. It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
"It is recommended to invite neighbors, relatives and friends." (5/343)
4. Acceptance of a Walima Invitation:
Most scholars consider accepting an invitation from Walima to be obligatory, and one would be sinful in rejecting it. The great scholar of Hadith and Sahfi'i, Imam al-Nawawi has referred to various scholars’ views in this account:
1) It is personally obligatory (fard ayn), except if there is an excuse,
2) It is a general obligation (fard kifaya)
3) It is recommended (mandub) (See: Nawawi, al-Minhaj, Sharh Sahih Muslim, 1080)
Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) has said: "If one of you is invited to a wedding banquet (walima), then he must accept the invitation." [Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4878]
Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) has said: "Accept this (marriage) invitation if you are invited to it." And Abd Allah ibn Umar used to accept the invitation whether to a wedding banquet or any other feast, even when he was fasting. [Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4884]
5. Emphasis on Simplicity of Walima:
There has been a great emphasis on entertaining a simpler as it is easier and not a burden on the Muslim ummah. People often spend thousands upon thousands of feeding people, an amount that can be expended on other Muslims ' crucial requirements. And if the purpose behind this amount of expenditure is to show-off, it will be considered a serious sin. The purpose here is to feed people with simplicity and honesty. When you feed people with the simplest of meals, but it is from the heart, that is far better than feeding them quality food, where the purpose is not so real.
Hazrat Aisha (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H) has said: "The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses." [al-Bayhaqi in his Shu'ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih].
Nowadays people fail to respect Islamic values, and they also practice all sorts of non-religious activities, such as alcohol, a dance between men and women, etc., and then recite the Quran and mawlid. These scenes are inherently controversial to one another show our community's spiritual and nation shortcomings as well as what we sacrificed to emulate the West and how we became hypocritical or rather inexplicable individuals.
The family relationship is sacred and the pillar of our culture. Such a form of organization should not be based on forbidden things but spiritual values and attitudes.