Dear potential spouse. I am married(miserably), and with 3 children. A boy of 8(Bilal), boy of 5(Abdullah) and a girl of 4(Amina). I've been married to my wife(Ammara) for the past 16 years. We weren't able to have children until like 7 years after being wed. And now we have 3, alhamdulillah! I love my children very much and I've tried to be an exemplary father and husband. But I have to be honest. As much as I've loved and cared for my wife in the past, the marriage suffered quite a bit with the advent of having offspring. And particularly after our 3rd child(Amina), I didn't feel like being married or having a female companion anymore. It just feels like I'm living with the mother of my children. I've missed and longed for a woman's affection and sincere friendship for a long time now.... Right now, I can barely take care of myself and my family, let alone another wife...but I can't help feeling lonely and deprived....deprived of love....affection....and respect....I realize most of you lovely sisters out there are thinking that I should stop wasting my own and other sisters' time... To be honest.....it's not even the physical/sexual aspect of having another wife, that is the driving force behind me even bothering with this profile.....I just feel lonely....and not lonely for friendship from fellow brothers....but the sensibilities of the female creatures of Allah....SubhaanAllah....how Great is He, for putting such lovely creatures on this earth, for us males to enjoy....because honestly....this world is so full of sadness, injustice and wrongdoings....that the one thing that can make you forget the nastiness of our surroundings, is that smile on a woman's face...her eyes looking at you attentively....her loving words...piercing your heart....her righteous character putting your mind to rest.....and her touch....giving you highs that no other sensation can.....
My long term goals
I'm 38 years old, but due to circumstances and the choices I've made over the years....I am where I am. I became a practicing and devout muslim from around the age of 20; before that I was only pretending to be muslim. But the moment I starting praying my 5 daily prayers, is when I tasted the sweetness of eemaan. Though I've gained considerable knowledge and know-how in matters of the deen, alhamdulillah, I never got around to gaining much in terms of the dunya. I don't have any qualifications or formal education as of yet, but I've been working towards that for the past couple of years. I took some courses in natural sciences(chemistry, physics and maths), wherein I did really well, alhamdulillah. And subsequently I've applied for medicine at the university, where I hope to get admitted for studies starting from September 2019, inshaa Allah. As a licensed general practitioner of medicine, I hope to be able to do my part in having the sunnah of hijama become recognized/acknowledged and be mainstream. Most of the science community in the field of medicine are oblivious to this one sunnah, which is the king of remedies/preventions, with the persmission of Allah(bi'idhnillah).
Things I'm good at and enjoy
This reminds me of that companion of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, who wanted to get married to someone, but he was so poor that he did not even have an iron ring to give as mahr. This companion was then asked what he knew of the Qur'an by heart, and was allowed by virtue of the portion of Qur'an he had memorized, to use as a means of mahr; the wisom being perhaps so that he could impart this knowledge of the Qur'an to his spouse/family. I see myself in a similar light. I don't have much in the way of supporting other human beings, but I feel like I have a good grasp of the religion, am able to teach Qur'an/Salah well to others(my kids for instance), and I feel I am very patient and gentle in imparting knowledge and discipline to others. Things I enjoy? When it comes to food, I am very simple. I don't daydream about fancy banquets and expecting my wife to cook to my heart's delight. It is not a wife's duty to cook for her husband anyway; despite what cultural customs and traditions say...it is only but a kindness that she can CHOOSE to afford her husband. I eat very simple. Bread with butter, milk and cereals, french fries and the like.... As I said....I don't wish for elaborate dishes....I wish for a woman's love...her tenderness....her care.....THAT is my appetite...THAT is the hunger I feel every day....
The first thing people notice about me
My lack of hair, surely, hehe. Verily, beauty is a fleeting thing, and sooner or later our beauty is bound to perish, as are all things, except the Face of Allah. Glorious is He. The hair on one's head constitutes a big part of that beauty, and in my case, Allah has seen fit to test me with the loss of that. Alhumdulillah, I have good health otherwise. And well, I suppose people also notice my nice silky beard, heh. Well, a bit stiff to the touch maybe, heh. And I suppose I have a very shy demeanour as well. Though once I get acquainted with you, I tend to be a very enjoyable, social and witty individual.
What I love most about Islam
The perfect and complete way of life. It is easy to follow and it does not burden you beyond one's capabilities/scope. Just take the most important duty in Islam; the Salat. If you can't pray standing, then pray sitting, and if you can't even that....pray while lying. It fixes all society's woes and although the life of a muslim is one of trial and tribulations, Allah gives you the tools to combat that, through patience(Sabr), taqwa(being conscience of Allah, having fear/hope), and simply following the Qur'an and the sunnah(authentic narrations/teachings/sayings) of our beloved prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
Things I'm looking for in a partner
My dear potential spouse/partner. We are human beings. It is in our nature to sin and make mistakes, and it is in Allah's nature to forgive us when we turn to Him to ask for forgiveness FOR those sins/mistakes. Humans tend to make mistakes and commit sin, and Allah loves to forgive when we turn to Him in repentance, with sincerity. I am not perfect and I do not expect YOU to be perfect, my sister. Just don't follow innovations in the deen. Follow the Qur'an and the sunnah of the prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.....follow the example of the prophet and that of his companions, the best generation of muslims, followed by those who came after, then those who came after.... do not follow the whims and desires of misguided sects..... stay true to the authentic/proven sunnah. Whatever Allah and his messenger have told you to do, do as much as you can......and whatever Allah and his messenger have told you to keep away from....keep away from it as much as you can.... Other than that... Fear Allah's punishment....but also at the same time....be hopeful of his Mercy. Be steadfast in your Salah, fast in Ramadan, pay your zakaat, try and gather the means to go for Hajj, and never ever forget......That there is nothing/nobody worthy of worship, except for Allah, and that Muhammad is but His slave and messenger. Our beloved prophet was not an angel, he was not God, not part of God, or part of His Light......Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was a human being....of the highest character and eemaan...the leader of prophets and the leader of the muslim ummah.....but he was human....don't become like those christians who exalted Jesus, peace be upon him, beyond the limits. And finally....I am looking for someone who will love me for the of sake of Allah. I have not much in terms of beauty and wealth.....but I have wisdom, knowledge and.....SOOOOO much love I want to share with you, my dear.
You should message me if
If....you are affluent or the daughter/child of an affluent family, not looking for someone to be able to take care of you financially, even though it IS your right, and it IS a husband's responsibility. I am not wanting to reverse the marital roles, and I am not greedy for your wealth.....I am greedy for your love and companionship....I hope that Allah the Sustainer, enables me to be able to provide for my family/loved ones.....but as it is.....I cannot offer much except I can try and be your guide on this journey....to the pleasure of Allah... to paradise.