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No they are not. Are neither are you. No, really you’re not, no matter how much you claim to be a “perfectionist”. You’re not. Nor is your spouse. Nor will they ever be. This is how it is and this is how we must accept it. But why are we not perfect? If Allah, the most perfect Being ever created us then why are we not perfect? And why are our spouses not perfect? The answer is very simple.
Much has been said in Islam about marrying a person for their beauty, as said by the Holy Prophet (PBUH) in a very famous tradition, but many have not grasped the meaning of the tradition and have misunderstood it.
the good relationship between a husband and a wife should encompass encouragement. Because from encouragement comes trust and from trust comes courage and confidence. An everyday example is enough to understand this. If a husband has trouble believing that he can complete a presentation by the next morning and the wife comes to him with a cup of tea, holds his hand and tells him he can do it, that automatically installs encouragement in them and he gets the strength to complete his task.
When people talk about the perfect example of team work in marriage one’s mind always shoots to the marriage of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) with Hazrat Khadija or that of his marriage to Hazrat Ayesha. The level of team work in their marriage and their relationship was so effortless that even after more than a thousand years, we still follow them and marvel at them, yet most of us do not seem to learn from them.
There is a very famous tradition of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) that a man should marry a woman for four things; her wealth, her status, her beauty and her religion. So when you chose a woman who has all these qualities to spend the rest of her life with you, Allah has already gifted you the qualities of the best woman who can live with you and make your life prosperous.
Allah has very specifically said about the relationship of marriage between a Muslim husband and the Muslim wife that, “They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them…” [Sûrah al-Baqarah: 187]” For both the husband and the wife the term clothing means that they are to love and protect each other...
Marriage in Islam is a huge responsibility, a big relationship yet the proper way to make it work is to take care of the little things and make them work. A series of little things taken care of properly will ensure that the relationship of marriage, even with its bumps and bruises, has a steady sail.
No one enters into marriage thinking that it will not work out, that it will end in disaster. Lots of hopes, dreams and plans are attached to the idea of marriage, especially in Muslim marriages where once you enter it Allah showers the world’s blessings on the couple.
Much is said in our society about the relationship of a man and a woman with their spouse’s respective families. More often than not, unfortunately, good things are not said about the relationships. However, in Islam it is required to love your spouse’s family as you would love your own.
When was the last time someone chose a wife for themselves keeping in mind that she would one day become the mother of his children? Probably not any time recently. We live in a society where the thoughts of upbringing of the family and the children are given least importance...