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One of the most important attributes of a happy marriage is for spouses to give each other respect. Respect is not the same as love. Respect is much deep than love and is always earned. When a Muslim man or woman feel that they respect each other in marriage, then Allah will automatically bless that marriage.
In today’s day and age and in the rut of this modern world where we as humans have so many priorities we forget to give one of the most important relationships in our lives the due importance that it deserves. Allah asks us to make our marriages our top most priority because it is one of the most loved relationships in the eyes of Allah but we fail to do so because the craziness of this technological world gets to us.
From the moment we gain senses of what we are in this world, our only concern is about ourselves. It’s just me and no one else. Sure we care for our families and our friends but the one thing we care most about is ourselves. This theory does not work quite well as we grow older and enter into relationships and especially after e get married.
In Muslim Marriages Allah has laid great emphasis on love between spouses who have signed the bond to live with one another. But a very important part leading to a successful marriage is also the admiration that a spouse has for the other spouse. When a Muslim husband or wife shows their life partner that they admire them, it leads to strengthening of the marriage and consequently a very strong bond.
Allah has asked all Muslims to marry for the right reasons and marry a person when they fulfill the criteria of those right reasons. He has asked us to marry after we see that our potential spouse is capable of supporting us, is compatible with us, has beauty, has means and most importantly, has faith, has Imaan. This should be the most important criteria of Muslims to marry.
Loving your spouse and love for your Muslim spouse comes in many different ways. Love is an emotion that many people feel is complicated. It has the capacity to make you the happiest person in the world and it also has the capacity to break your heart into a million pieces.
Allah created all of us as perfect human beings for Jannah but we are imperfect in this Dunya. Hence in Muslim marriages there are two imperfect people coming together and trying to make it work.
Husbands in Islam are meant to support their wives financially as commanded by Allah in the Quran. Allah has said that men are to support their wives from within their means and there are no two ways about it. A husband has the responsibility, given by Allah to provide for his wife and later his children.
We as Muslims all enter marriage not knowing what is in store for us. We just trust Allah and follow his guidance on choosing a partner for ourselves and then marrying that partner and living with them for the rest of their lives. Many times we feel elation in the relationship and many times we feel despair.
Your spouse is your partner and your garment in marriage. Marriage is just not a relationship it is also a partnership. When you’re in a partnership like marriage that will last your entire life you need to treat your spouse like a real partner and value their opinions immensely.