The intentions on marriage and the intentions in marriage are different from each other but are equally important in Islam. For all Muslims, the intentions they have on marriage should be good and pure and must show that they take this institute as a very important one and strive to enter in it with a pure heart.
Sure, a successful marriage takes giving importance to the big things in your relationship like finances, the house, the kids but have you ever stopped and taken notice of the small things in your marriage? Or rather have you stopped and noticed the tiny things that make your spouse who they are.
There are lots of things we can do to our marriages as Muslims to make them work out. We can try to make them happy marriages (which is the first thing we think of when we enter into this union), we try to make it a content marriage and we try to make it a successful marriage.
A healthy marriage is bound to have bad days along with good days. That is why it is called a healthy marriage and not a perfect marriage. Because Allah knows that perfect marriages do not exist and he does not expect us to achieve perfection in our marriages. Just like human beings are flawed so is the relationship of marriage between two different human beings. However, we must make sure that it is not by carrying out a balancing act appropriately.
Allah has asked all Muslims who are married to live together in peace and harmony and to contribute equally to marriage. Contributing equally into a marriage has various connotations but in our society and this day and age, Muslim couples believe in extremes which destroys the essence of what is really meant by the equality in contribution.
The examples that we should follow for our Muslim marriages to be successful are not movies or man-made stories. Rather we should follow the examples of the marriages of the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) and Hazrat Khadijah and the Prophet Mohammad and Hazrat Ayesha.